Seeking Wisdom in Our Words


It’s  Women of the Word Wednesday here at Refocused Bible Study! This project is near and dear to my heart. Every Wednesday, a fellow blogger will share with us how the Lord spoke to them through the day’s chapter.

You’re going to love what our guest writer, Nichole of Courage.Hope.Love has to share with us about seeking the Lord’s wisdom in every word we speak, based on our chapter of the day, Proverbs 17. Nichole is gifted in sharing insight about God’s word in a compact way that leaves you with a clear application of scripture. Visit her blog and be encouraged by her message below. 

Proverbs 17: Seeking Wisdom In Our Words

I grew up in a loud home. Words were many, arguments were commonplace and all shouted to be heard. I’ve always thought this was normal, I enjoyed talking as much as the next person. But when I brought my husband-who I was dating at the time-home, I recognized a very different perspective.

“A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered.” -Proverbs 17:27

Restraining words was not something I was used to. 

After all, in a world where everyone talks so loud, you have to shout to be heard. And so I shouted.

Sometimes it was just a story about my day, other times it was an opinion. And many others, it was an argument founded on the desire to be heard and the desire to be right.

But as I processed this newfound truth, Jesus began to teach me something.

True wisdom is not about being right. True wisdom is not about having all the answers.

True wisdom is when we seek God above all else and seek to follow Him with our whole heart and our whole life.

In my search to grow closer to the Lord, I realized that I needed to surrender my desire to be heard and surrender every one of my words to the Lord.

What would come from my winning of an argument?

What could result from shouting over another’s words?

“A discerning man keeps wisdom in view, but a fool’s eyes wander to the ends of the earth.” -Proverbs 17:24

As I sought out wisdom, I needed to align my goals and my desires with the Lord.

We must remember our purpose and our calling with each word that we speak.

We are called to love and to forgive.

We are called to be humble and to serve.

We are called to minister and to care.

Every word that we speak is an opportunity to spread God’s almighty love and everlasting hope. 

This isn’t easy. In fact, I often fail to speak words that align with this call. But I see God’s transforming power at work within me.

“If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.” -James 1:5

In James, we find the promise that as we seek wisdom, God will transform us.

Proverbs is a book full of the picture of perfect wisdom.

Today, I encourage you to seek the Lord’s wisdom in each and every word that you speak.

Seek to align your desires with God’s heart.

And remember this: “How much better to get wisdom than gold, to choose understanding rather than silver.” -Proverbs 16:16

Nicole Kauffman is a wife, blogger and passionate follower of Christ. Her blog Courage. Hope. Love. was founded to encourage, inspire and guide Christians to deeper hope and joy in the Lord. Nicole lives in Pennsylvania with her amazing, God-seeking husband and family. She is an aspiring author who loves to grow relationships, mentor, and explore the beauty of God’s creation all around.

Gentle Words 


It’s day 15 of Proverbs a chapter a day here at Refocused Bible Study.  (Each day we read and discuss the chapter corresponding with the date).

This month we are digging deep into the word through a quiet time pattern based on the word ‘WISE” (see the image below). We’ve been talking about the Word traveling from our minds to our hearts and coming alive in our lives. When we see how God can use just one verse of scripture to renew our minds and transform the way we think, act and become more like Jesus (Romans 12:2).

Friday we studied Proverbs 12 and discussed how encouraging words can cheer a person up. It’s easy to speak encouragement when a conversation is going well; but what about when the atmosphere is tense and you or the person you are speaking to are frustrated, snippy, or angry? It’s much harder to answer a person kindly When they have spoken to you in anger.

Our verse of the week and my verse of the day show us what to do when we find ourselves in this situation.

“A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.”

Proverbs 15:1 NLT 

In my life: Rely on the Holy Spirit to produce the fruit of gentleness in my words – even when the words coming at me are not gentle. Remember what this verse says; tender, soft words make wrath turn away from you — that is the desired result. I don’t want to stir up anger. I want peace in the relationships in my life.

Speak the verse aloud.

End in prayer: Lord, thank you for the wisdom in your word about how to handle it when a person is speaking angrily at us. Please help us respond with a gentle, soft answer through the power of your Holy Spirit so we can bring you glory and diffuse anger. Thank you for your help in this, Jesus, Amen.

For more study on life giving words, click here. 

Which verse spoke to you today?


Encouraging Words


Worry weighs a person down;
an encouraging word cheers a person up.

Proverbs 12:25

It’s day twelve of Proverbs, a chapter a day here at Refocused Bible Study! Today we are studying chapter twelve. (Each day we read and discuss the chapter corresponding with the date).

This month we are digging deep into the word through a quiet time pattern based on the word ‘WISE” (see the image below). We’ve been talking about the Word traveling from our minds to our hearts and coming alive in our lives. When we see how God can use just one verse of scripture to renew our minds and transform the way we think, act and become more like Jesus (Romans 12:2).

Write the verse that speaks the most to you.

Worry weighs a person down;
an encouraging word cheers a person up.

Proverbs 12:25 NLT

In my life: Encourage others about God’s goodness when you see them worrying. Use scripture to speak these encouraging words to others. He is always working things together for good for his people (Romans 8:28).

Don’t worry about anything, instead, pray about everything (Philippians 4:6). Surround yourself with godly people who encourage you with truth, not flattery, so the encouragement you receive is weighty and of worth.

Speak the verse aloud

End in Prayer: Lord, thank you for your encouragement. You are always so good. Please help us all to be encouragers of truth – of your activeness in our lives and your unfailing love and faithfulness that never ends. The evidence of your goodness can always be seen by what Jesus did on the cross for us. We can always be encouraged that you love us. Help us give others encouragement today and receive the encouragement we need.

In Jesus’ name,


What verse are you asking God to help you apply today?

I want to encourage all you mamas that God is faithful in motherhood! Happy Mother’s Day!


A Wise Listener 


It’s  Women of the Word Wednesday here at Refocused Bible Study! This project is near and dear to my heart. Every Wednesday, a fellow blogger will share with us how the Lord spoke to them through the day’s chapter.

If you are passionate about sharing what the Lord is teaching you through his Word, I want to encourage you to use your passion to build up God’s people. Start with the people in your own home, and then reach outward. His Word is living and active and helpful!

I was so challenged by this guest post from our contributing writer this week, Leah Weber. Her insight on Proverbs chapter 10 is extremely applicable and helpful. Most importantly, she shows us at the end of the post how Jesus modeled listening to people, from the heart. This posts fits in so perfectly with what we have been discussing about wisdom reaching our heart and turning into action. You’re going to love what she has to say! Visit her blog and comment to her below to show a fellow sister some love!


I oftentimes approach reading the Bible like I approach reading a handbook or an instruction manual. I ask myself questions like, “what can I get out of this, how can I be a better person, or what should I do in this situation?.” This can often discourage me when I realize that I can never live up to everything the Bible says I should do. While the Bible is full of wisdom and advice on how we should live our lives, it is not primarily about that. The Bible is about Jesus. Scripture should ultimately point us to the glory of God. I want us to remember that while we look at this passage.

What stood out to me the most about Proverbs 10 are the numerous verses about the tongue and the heart. Verse 20 says:

“The tongue of the righteous is choice silver, the heart of the wicked is of little worth.”

I went back and read this verse again and thought that Solomon got it wrong, he should have said the “TONGUE” of the wicked is of little worth, not the heart. But Solomon has a reason for choosing the heart.

Solomon uses the heart instead of the tongue to illustrate how what we say flows out of our hearts. This is also mentioned in Matthew 15:18

“But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart, and this defiles a person.”

Our words are more than just meaningless phrases strung together, they are powerful tools that can be used to either uplift or tear down a person. So what is an example of a righteous person who uses words to uplift someone? Solomon says that the righteous, whose tongue is choice silver, flows out of a heart full of worth. What does a heart of worth look like? Let’s look at an earlier verse in chapter 10:8

“The wise of heart will receive commandments, but a babbling fool will come to ruin.” 

Again Solomon contrasts the heart with the tongue but in a different context. The wise person is someone who receives commandments. This is someone who is in the Word, listens to advice from others, and accepts reproof with humility. Numerous verses in this chapter (vs 8, 19) say that talking a lot, or babbling, can lead to ruin. This implies that the wise are also good listeners.

As women of the word, we need to become good listeners. Not just women who listen with our minds, but women who listen with our hearts. Instead of contributing to the constant comparison, judgement, and guilt that is so prevalent among women (especially in our mom culture), we need to come alongside each other and truly listen to each other.

Think about a time when you felt truly listened to; what are some words that come to mind? I feel like I’ve been given a gift. I feel heard, known, affirmed, and healed. When we listen like this we foster relationships of trust which not only allows us to encourage one another, but also allows us to speak wisely and truthfully into another person’s life.

So often we can either listen with our mind or our heart. But Jesus did both perfectly. Jesus puts aside cultural differences, misunderstandings, and his own reputation when he listens to people. When Jesus approaches the woman at the well (John 4), the woman tells Jesus that he shouldn’t speak to her because she is a Samaritan and he is Jew. This cultural difference doesn’t stop Jesus from asking her questions and continuing to pursue her heart.

Jesus also listens intently and knows how to encourage someone who is in need. When Martha comes to Jesus and tells him that Lazarus is sick Jesus says, “This sickness will not end in death. No, it is for God’s glory so that God’s Son may be glorified through it. (John 11:4) How beautiful is that! Jesus listens and hears the sorrow and worry in her voice and gives her hope by pointing her to Jesus and God’s ultimate glory.

But Jesus doesn’t just say the right thing, he also feels the emotions of others. Jesus goes to the tomb of Lazarus and even though he knows that he is about to raise Lazarus from the dead, when he sees Martha crying, he weeps. Jesus doesn’t just say the right thing at the right time, he knows when to be silent and empathize with people.

There are people in all of our lives who desperately need someone to listen to them. They need us to lay aside our selfishness, our prejudice, and our hurts in order to minister to them like Jesus ministered to Martha and the woman at the well.

My hope for us as we read this passage is not that we would just try harder to be better listeners, but that by seeing the example of the way Jesus loves, listens, and empathizes with others, that we would be spurred on to do likewise.

Meet our contributoring writer for this “Women of the Word Wednesday!” 

Leah Weber

Hi! I’m Leah Weber and I live in a small town right outside Atlanta, GA with my husband and one year old little girl. I work alongside my husband in college ministry and it is one of my greatest joys to mentor young women. I started my blog as a creative outlet for myself and as a way to share my passion for creativity, and love for the Lord with others. I hope my post encourages and inspires you! I would love to hear from you!

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Head to Heart Wisdom


“For wisdom is far more valuable than rubies. Nothing you desire can compare with it.” Proverbs‬ ‭8:11‬ ‭NLT‬‬

It’s day eight of Proverbs, a chapter a day, here at Refocused Bible Study. Everyday this month, we are reading one chapter a day that corresponds to the date.

To dig deeper, we then follow the quiet time pattern below to help interact with the Lord through the verse and apply the truth to our lives.

My verse today is the same as our weekly memory verse for this week:

Biblical wisdom is “knowledge applied.” It means not just knowing what God’s Word says, but letting it travel the eighteen inches from your head to your heart and living it out. In the church world, this is called “fleshing it out.” What we read in his word and learn in sermons and in small group bible studies attaches to us so well that we really live what we believe.

This is hard. If you don’t think it’s hard to always desire to do what the word of God says, maybe you aren’t reading the same bible we are! Jesus was our ultimate picture of the Word made flesh. He was selflessness in human form; the only person ever to walk this earth and not sin.

Thankfully, he knew we couldn’t do life perfectly, so he took the required death that must happen when we sin. Wisdom is walking in our salvation; your robes of righteousness because of what Christ has done. We aren’t righteous because we are good wives, excellent mothers, or church goers. We are right with God because of what Jesus has done.

Walk in wisdom by really believing the truths in his word at the level of your heart. Apply the knowledge of his word, asking God to make it come alive and not just stay in your mind, but to keep breath and a heartbeat and stay in motion from our heads, to our hearts, to our mouths, hands and feet.


Thank you for the wisdom you have given us through your word, especially for the wisdom that we are righteous only because of you, our Jesus. You died and rose from the dead for us. You have deemed us fully forgiven daughters. Please help the knowledge from your word move from our heads to our hearts today, living powerfully unafraid, full of the confidence knowing you brings.