Gently and Diligently

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Today our summer break ends and we start a new school year!  Sam starts 3rd grade and Arabella and Sharon start 1st grade.  And here is the truth about typing out these words:

our children are blessed with the opportunity to be educated.

This is something I cannot quit thinking about.  I look into Sharon’s face and realize, she used to be an orphan who, if had not been adopted, would be in an orphan’s boarding school right now in Uganda IF her orphanage director had been able to raise funds to send her there.  I praise God as I type these words that HE intervened and this will not be her future!!! Ah, He is just so amazing to redeem life that is bleak and place His children on a path that is right bright and full of hope.

The problem is, Sharon’s mother (me) forgets her past because she is in America now.  The land of opportunity, rapid growth and expectation.  I forget she was neglected.  I forget she was not read to, rocked, and sung to like my other two babies.  Last year I expected her to progress on the path of the American Kindergartener.  There were tears and frustration — all from a love that wanted to see her succeed and be on grade level by the end of the year.  (An expectation this past public educator has a hard time letting go of).

Enter in: a long pause of summer and SEEKING GOD IN PRAYER about God’s educational plans for my children.  If you missed downloading “A Beautiful Blossoming Prayer Guide” to help pray and plan over your child’s school year, you can download it here:

A Beautiful Blossoming Prayer Guide

During this time at the Father’s feet interfacing with God about my kids, here is what He whispered to me:

Teach them GENTLY AND DILIGENTLY. 

A gentle demeanor.  A diligent work ethic.

This is how Jesus teaches us:

“Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” Matthew 11:29

This is how we are called to teach our children the ways of God:

You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. Deuteronomy 6:7

God is so good to give me this little nugget of a homeschool philosophy in three little words!  Just enough to whisper in the form of a prayer when I feel like giving up or yelling or hiding in the bathroom, amen?

I have never been a traditional “school” parent, but I think this applies to us all, no matter what educational  path the Lord has put your family on.  I hope it inspires you to pull your babies close in encourage them, but to also expect them to work for excellence to glorify their heavenly Father this school year.

Above all else, let us remember that our children’s education is a gift denied to many!

 A Beautiful Blossoming 

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Back to School Prayer Guide 

A month from today, our school year starts and this long exhale of summer will be over. I have mixed emotions about this. I’m going to miss the slow paced, carefree days when the only few things I make sure the kids do are brush their teeth and put on sunscreen.

But alas, fall is coming, and it’s time to get intentional once again. I realized I needed to to reflect and refocus for fall  when we were at my mom’s this weekend and my kids were being loud, slamming doors, not saying please and thank you…you get it, right? I starting questioning my parenting skills until I went on a run by myself and had a one on one with Jesus.

As I ran beneath the beautiful Spanish moss-hanging trees of Charleston, I realized I was focused on all the wrong things that lead a mom down a road of despair and darkness. I was focused on my kids’ sins and not on God’s mercy, his forgiveness, and his power. Hope is lost when we focus on sin. Life is found when we fix our eyes on Jesus. God reminded me to see my child as He sees them.

A child of God.

The Lord reminded me to see past the moment. To call my child up instead of calling them out. To remind them of their position in Christ.

Redeemed for his glory and good works.

I came back from my run feeling equipped and hopeful for the road ahead in motherhood. I had a blueprint in mind from his Word to get prepared in prayer. To kneel down low and pray to the One who was there when my child’s heart first began to flutter. The One who knit her together in the womb, fearfully and wonderfully. He knows what she needs, and He will faithfully guide this mama and any mama who asks Him. He’s just that good! 🙂

I created this prayer guide to help us kneel down low for each of our children as they embark on this school year. Whether you homeschool like us, public school, or private school — it’s for you. From ages preschool on up.

When we finally made it home from our six hour car ride this weekend, I was surprised that the flowers on my front porch withstood the blistering sun the three days we were away. But I noticed that the soil was not dry. I had been sure to douse them with plenty of water before I left. I was intentional about their growth. And guess what? – A bud I had been watching had opened up into this little blossom:


Mamas- take this analogy with you! Pray, water, cultivate, tend, and wait for a beautiful blossoming in the months to come!!! Beauty within our children is sure to continue to emerge and bring their Creator glory. Thank you Jesus.

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Reckless in Your Love

Adoption, John

 

“In the same way, anyone who holds on to life just as it is destroys that life. But if you let it go, reckless in your love, you’ll have it forever, real and eternal.”‭‭ John‬ ‭12:25 ‭MSG

  

It’s been the Christian fad verse for the past few years- the topic so many top sellers have been based around, – if you love Jesus, loose your life. And by loose it, do something 

Radical.  

Like sell all your possessions and go be a missionary in s third world country.

or

Feed the homeless.

or

Adopt a kid from Africa. (Ahem).

But after you do one of these things, how does it look when you are

Still here? 

God didn’t swoop you up into heaven saying, great work, now you’re done.

But that mission is over, and now it’s just

life as usual. 

How does living this “life of abandon,” reckless in your love  overflowing from the Jesus well within you translate into

Wednesday in North Carolina?

This is a question I’ve been asking myself for a few years now, since I’ve been burdened with the weight of the hungry orphans I’ve held in my arms. They are there, I am here. What am I to do Lord?

The answer he has given me is to shine bright in my home for Jesus, and reach out together, arms linked with my husband and children, loving on the world, one person at a time.

 Decide your life, today, wherever you are, is where you are supposed to be reckless in your love. 

“There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” John 15:13

 

Jesus did it for us, and it’s that simple.  The way we loose our life like Jesus is calling us to here, is to love others with his life laid down kind of love.  We make it complicated, and sometimes it can be.  Adoption is complicated.  But every circumstance is an opportunity to give up what you dreamed your life would look like today, for the sake of loving the ones Jesus has called you to love.  The people closest to you.  Or sometimes one person halfway around the world.  The secret is his love and guidance, winning out over your selfish desires and dreams.

It’s a day by day, minute by minute process to loose your life, over and over to gain real eternal life.  As we do this, heaven comes down and we experience more and more of the eternal life here.

We are living for something greater, for a kingdom that is forever, for a legacy that will not fade.  

Walk with Life Himself and love recklessly right where you are today.

This post coincides with the Alive! Book of John Journey, which can be found below:

http://refocusedbiblestudy.com/2016/02/27/alivebook-of-john-journey-for-march/

 

 

Sparkling Jewels at Our Feet

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“You see, our knight in shinning armor has come! He rides in on a white horse (Revelation 19:11) to bring us the fairy tale ending we were hoping for!  Love Himself will come win the battle to save us and carry us off to live in a palace with beauty we can’t even imagine,” (excerpt Love Letters From God study).

In Revelation chapter 21, we are given some details about the walls, foundation, and gates of the new Jerusalem:

“19 The foundations of the city walls were decorated with every kind of precious stone. The first foundation was jasper, the second sapphire, the third agate, the fourth emerald, 20 the fifth onyx, the sixth ruby, the seventh chrysolite, the eighth beryl, the ninth topaz, the tenth turquoise, the eleventh jacinth, and the twelfth amethyst.”

When I was writing this study, I could not pass up the  chance to encourage us to paint this beautiful scene as we received our final love letter from God to wrap up this study.  God’s word is so amazing to give us these details about the heavenly city!

 

I looked up the precious stones for that are mentioned so I could paint the stones their true colors. Here are some links to help:

There are some beautiful pictures of these gems.  It made me so excited thinking about this scene that our eyes will really see one day!   My girls were beside themselves intrigued about this real castle-like description of the beauty of heaven.

Last, we wrote our our love letters from God over top of them.  We chose phrases Jesus speaks in Revelation 21:5-6 after the Holy City comes down from God out of heaven.

  

What a love letter to end on:

 “It is finished”

There will be no more death, sorrow, or pain.

The depths of sin, pain, and evil will no longer exist.

These little masterpieces will remind us of where we are headed, to a beauty beyond our wildest dreams.  I hope you have grown in your awareness of the dimensions of God’s love for you through this study.  Remember, as  our theme passage tells us, we could never understand it fully.

Ephesians 3

“18 And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. 19 May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.”  

Our Love Letter to God:

 

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Purpose in the Pain

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Only one line showed up in the little rectangular window, again!  Every time, this outcome felt like the end of the pregnancy test was a sharp dagger someone was pushing into my heart, twisting it, round and round.  It hurt, bad.

Why?  Why am I having to wait God when everyone around me is not?  How many baby showers am I going to have to go to and smile on the outside when I feel like I am dying on the inside?  How many more pregnancy tests am I going to have to take before I finally see two lines and I feel like I can move forward with my life?  These were just some of the questions I begged God to answer in those years that felt like decades.

But he didn’t answer.  Instead, he gave me glimpses.  He spoke tenderly to my heart in the secret places that only he and I knew.  He even gave me a name to name the child I would not quit begging him to give me.  Samuel.

Deep down I knew he had his reasons.  Deep down I knew his timing was best. Somewhere inside I knew there was

purpose in the pain.   

Because I knew Him.  I knew he was good.  I knew he would never withhold any good gift from one of his children.

I tried to trace his reasoning.  I tried to figure out why he had decided I would have to wait for this desire every woman has.  But all I could do was wait and trust.

I was reminded of this today in the “Love Letters From God” bible study, because the pain I felt ten years ago has now turned into praise for God’s perfect timing and unsearchable understanding.

Romans 11

33Oh, the depth of the riches of the wisdom and knowledge of God!
How unsearchable his judgments,
and his paths beyond tracing out!
34 “Who has known the mind of the Lord?
Or who has been his counselor?”
35 “Who has ever given to God,
that God should repay them?”
36 For from him and through him and for him are all things.
To him be the glory forever! Amen.

I couldn’t search his judgements or trace into the future to see why I had to go through those years of barrenness.  But I can now attest to knowing some of the riches of His wisdom during the wait.

I don’t expect you to disregard the pain you are experiencing now, whatever that may be, but I’d like to encourage you:

1. You will experience a great depth of richness with him if you draw near to him.

2.You can’t understand or “search” his judgements, so trust him instead.

3.You can’t trace his path for your future, but you know The One tracing it.

I hope this encourages you press into God when you cannot understand the pain.  I look back  now, with a healthy, happy eight year old boy, and I try with my shallow understanding to see some of God’s purposes.  I see many reasons, but I know there are more that I will not understand on this side of eternity.

This story has a happy ending.  I know yours may not. Yours may have ended in a death of a loved one, or a broken relationship that never mended.  But you too, have the same promises.  There is divine purpose in the pain, in the depths of his understanding that we cannot fathom.  His love is not absent there.  It is full and present in our deepest sorrow.  I pray that you experience  his presence in your pain.

Tomorrow is our last day I will be blogging about the dimensions of God’s love through the “Love Letters From God” study!  I cannot wait to share the final blogpost based on God’s love through the book of Revelation!  Check back tomorrow!  My love letter from God is below.  My love letter to God was a long, intimate scribble today.  🙂

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