Mother’s Day Past, Present, and Future 

Motherhood

Today if you saw me in church, you saw me holding a 45 pound six year old on my hip. Yes, I did. She is my princess diva. She’s still small enough to carry & she asks to snuggle. So yes, I hold her at church during worship. I know soon she’ll be too big.

If you knew that nine years ago on Mother’s Day, I sat in the same church wondering if God would ever bless me with a child, then you’d have seen me differently.

“I don’t know if I can take this another year if I don’t get pregnant this year, I thought.”

I started making plans to skip church next Mother’s Day if I didn’t have a baby yet.

…but I didn’t have to! The next year, I was at church…with baby Sam, but nowhere to be seen in service. I was in the bathroom, nursing him! 🙂

Then there were the Mother’s Days in between then and now… The ones spent in complete chaos with two small kids in diapers. I have the best memory of naked babies on my front porch picking me weed flowers on Mother’s Day.

Then we come to this Mother’s Day. My kids are 5,6, and 8. They are so fun and becoming independent. Time is flying by! Today, my eight year old boy I begged God to give me nine years ago, took “orders” for breakfast:


PBandJ crust off (yep for breakfast)

Coco puffs (don’t judge, they are delicious!)

Coffee (yep, that was me)

Bagel with avocado & large bottle of water (for ironman dad)

Sam has been doing this for meals & leaving the sheet on the counter for the cook (me:).

As Sam was taking orders, Sharon was writing a homemade card for me:

I hope she forgives me for this but it’s just so funny I have to share: she copies random stuff when she writes. Check out the message inside:

Do you see the words, “Jane Fonda?” She copied part of a book on my nightstand! This girl cracks me up to no end!

And the 6 year old diva princess was throwing a fit in her room to get out of her morning chore. Happy Mother’s Day Mom!

I didn’t get a day off. And I didn’t want one. Believe me: in Mother’s Days in the past, I wanted a day off. I felt resentful if I didn’t get one if I am being honest.

But now I know, I mean really know: this is going by fast. There are no kids peeing on the walls anymore (yep potty training a boy days). There are no more pacis or diapers. AND I LOVE IT!

But here is the secret, mamas, for every stage of motherhood, penned by Paul in chains, applicable to every circumstance:

“Not that I was ever in need, for I have learned how to be content with whatever I have. I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little. For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.”

‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4:11-13‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Contentment is the secret. Joyful in the moment. Even in the chaos. Whining. Messy house. Refocusing our eyes and positioning our hearts on Christ as we do the dirty, unapplauded work of motherhood.

Today the message at church was on Nehemiah. The question that was asked was,

“What are the greatest works God has placed in your life?”

                        Motherhood 

The time between infancy & adulthood is short y’all. Some days it doesn’t feel like it, and believe me, I’m preaching to myself here when I say:

we have got to stay at it. 

Not just at the outward, immediate needs and work, but we have to stay at the feet of Jesus, being his vessels to nurture their hearts.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to get distracted from this good work. I want my response when distractions come to be what Nehemiah replied when asked to leave his good work:

I am engaged in a great work, so I can’t come. Why should I stop working to come and meet with you?” Nehemiah 6:3 NLT 

So how do we stay focused on this good work of motherhood? Reflect, pray, and plan, walking hand in hand with Jesus the whole time.

Download a tool to help Refocus for  the week ahead here: Sunday REFOCUS plan!

Happy Mothers Day moms! Stay at this good work! It is worth it!


RESToration

Spring Cleaning

 

“Restore to me the joy of your salvation,
and make me willing to obey you.” Psalm 51:12

It is May 1st!  Our month of April Spring Cleaning here at Refocused Bible Study has come to a close.  And guess what?  Me, your fierce leader has fallen short.  I still have not cleaned out under my couch, I missed scrubbing a few walls, and well, my house is still not immaculate like I was hoping it would be. I have made so much progress though, praise Jesus!  And I hope you have too!

 But…my heart is feeling very restored because I have chosen to do one thing, something I try to do daily:

FOCUS not on what I haven’t accomplished, but on what GOD has accomplished through me.  I depend on him, so when everything doesn’t get done, I can trust it wasn’t the most important good work that He had for me to do that day.

Sister friend, I encourage you to do the same thing:  when you get discouraged and think you are failing, look instead at what you have accomplished, and give God all the credit for it.  Seriously, I do this by like 10:00am everyday.  I try to think heart level, like things that will matter 10 years and 10,000 years from now in eternity. The dishes may be starting to pile up in the sink, but we may have had traded the chore for reading the Word together as a family.

I am going to keep on finishing the few spring cleaning projects that I didn’t get around to, as I pray the scriptures from the bible study. But the RESTORATION has already come!  Our  home is RESTORED because its inhabitants belong to Jesus.  I pray we are willing to obey the Lord with caring for our homes with diligence out of love through the power of his Holy Spirit.

Thank you for joining me on this journey to a clean heart and a clean home!

WHAT’S NEXT FOR REFOCUSED BIBLE STUDY?  

I don’t have a new study or bible reading/write it out plan for the month of May.  And I don’t have one on purpose.  Out of obedience to what the Lord has called and confirmed me to do, I am going to to focus solely  on editing, revising, and working with a publisher on my first bible study that I wrote for a fresh start for theNew Year,

Refocused, fixing our eyes on Jesus for the year ahead 

except now it’s

Refocused, fixing our eyes on Jesus for a fresh start!

Right here, every Sunday night, I will be encouraging you to do what the Psalms call SELAH,  to pause and reflect before the start of a new week.

To reflect on what God is doing in your life,

To REFOCUS on your relationship with God,

To REFOCUS  on your marriage,

To REFOCUS on your parenting,

To REFOCUS on your home

for the week ahead.

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Pray and set goals for the week ahead that will make your most abundant garden that bears fruit through your life be your garden at HOME!

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I’ll see you right here next Sunday to REFOCUS  on what’s really important.  ❤

The Miracle Eraser

Spring Cleaning

“Don’t keep looking at my sins.  Remove the stain of my guilt.” Psalm 51:9

Today I introduced my girls to the “Miracle Eraser.”  You know, sponges you can buy in the cleaning products aisle that get  the nasty grime off when a regular scrubber just can’t get the job done.  I gave them both one and let them have at it on the walls around the kitchen table.

“Gross.  You can find gross stuff in a house, Especially if you have kids,” I overheard my vanilla daughter, Arabella, talking to my chocolate daughter, Sharon from the laundry room.

I just hovered there I was and listened.

“I actually like doing this.  We should do this everyday,” Arabella continued chatting.

“Yes!” I was thinking.  Maybe they will really stay motivated and scrub all the walls in the house!

Well, that didn’t happen.  But a good conversation did.  We closed the blinds and I showed them all the splatters of food standing out against the white vinyl.

“This yucky spot is one of the mistakes you make, like when you get mad and pinch each other.” (Yep, they do that.)

But then, when you feel sorry for it in your heart, and you ask Jesus to forgive you, this happens; I said, as I sprayed the windex and scrubbed it with the miracle eraser.  See, it’s gone, sparkling white again.   We don’t have to keep looking at that nasty spot anymore.

“He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west.” Psalm 103:12

…and we have removed the stains around our kitchen table…finally!  Thank you Jesus!  It’s been a long time coming!!!

Only 2 more days left in this Spring Cleaning Series!  Stay tuned to hear what’s happening next right here at Refocused Bible Study!!!

Heart Cleansing 

Spring Cleaning

“Purify me from my sins, and I will be clean;
wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.” Psalm 51:7


This is the last week of “Spring Cleaning for your Heart and Home” bible study!  This week has the potential to be a powerful week of cleansing, especially for the heart.  We will be studying one of the most well-known passages in scripture when it comes to confession and forgiveness of sin, Psalm 51.

This psalm was written by David, after he had stolen another man’s wife and then arranged to have her husband killed.  Wow.  That sounds really bad, doesn’t it?

Adultery and murder.  

Think about that for a few minutes.  David was had just really screwed up his life. And where did he turn?  To the Lord, where he knew he would receive mercy and cleansing.

Where do you turn when you know you have screwed up? Do you cry out to the Lord like David did here?  And when you do, do you really feel whiter than snow?

A friend and I were talking about our children’s behavior yesterday.  We were discussing our expectations, and I told her I was trying to let go of expecting them to

act perfectly.  

Am I going to have high expectations for them?  Yes.  But I am going to continue to shake down every behavior to the heart of the matter. This is how our heavenly father parents us.  He wants to get past the behavior, to our hearts.   The past can’t be changed.

But the heart can be cleansed.  

Our hearts can be cleansed.  We can come to The Cleanser and let the power of his word and his blood wash away the shame and the guilt of the biggest screw ups.

So this week, I invite you to do just that.  Come dirty.  Leave clean.  How you ask?  Commit to memorizing and meditating on this passage this week:

Monday:  7Purify me from my sins, and I will be clean;
wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.
Tuesday:  8 Oh, give me back my joy again;
you have broken me—
now let me rejoice.
Wednesday:  9 Don’t keep looking at my sins.
Remove the stain of my guilt.
Thursday:  10 Create in me a clean heart, O God.
Renew a loyal spirit within me.
Friday:  11 Do not banish me from your presence,
and don’t take your Holy Spirit  from me.
12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation,
and make me willing to obey you.

Make David’s words your own heart’s cry.  Commit to the house cleaning in the study book as well and by Friday we will be seeing and feeling RESTORATION! This is it ladies, the LAST week!

The study guide is available below:

Mary Gone Martha

Spring Cleaning

 “It looks like a tornado hit in here!” Sam is so subtle, and he loves to point out when his sisters’ room looks worse than his.  Lately, the girls’  room was looking like a cyclone picked up all their clothes and spun them in the air to land all over the floor about once a week.  Here’s why:

They are girls.  Trying on outfits and finding just the right one is part of their daily life.  

They had an abundance of clothes (most girls do, right?)

They needed more storage.  

So, in my Martha mentality (which is getting kind of bad since doing this spring cleaning study if I am being honest), we set out on Friday to some thrift stores to find a dresser for their room.  (I refuse to buy nice furniture until they are older). I told Sharon, my African American princess about thrift shopping; how we might not find a “dress-up” at these stores, but that we were going to search through junk to see if we could find one.

Three thrift stores later, she was in tears and we had no prospects of a dresser.  (First world problems she is still not used to.) We returned home with a defeated feeling of a wasted afternoon and I started searching on Ikea’s website for something.

Monday morning it hit me, the Holy Spirit hit me upside the head that is! Lol!  “Pray and ask me to provide a dresser, Amy.”  So, I did.

“Lord, please provide a dresser, like today.” 

And guess what?  He did.  At our homeschool co-op that morning, a friend of mine poked her head into the classroom I was in and we talked about how our spring cleaning was going.  I told her about my predicament that had me at a standstill.  And she said:

“We have a dresser we were just going to set out by the road, you can have it.”

PRAYER ANSWERED.

 

(Tornado room on left, like that needed a caption!)

(New dresser on right)

 I had set out  in a “get things done” mentality, on a mission that wasted an afternoon I really needed to be at home, and came up empty.   I asked Jesus and came home with what I needed.  A dresser that matches my girls’ bunk beds almost perfectly.  Of course, Jesus has been teaching me through the passage in the study this week as I have learned this lesson, for the up-teenth time:

Psalm 127

Unless the Lord builds a house,
the work of the builders is wasted.
Unless the Lord protects a city,
guarding it with sentries will do no good.

I had tried to build my own home without the Lord’s help, wasted an afternoon, and given my girls a fierce hatred of thrift shopping.

2 It is useless for you to work so hard
from early morning until late at night,
anxiously working for food to eat;
for God gives rest to his loved ones.

I had worked hard and anxiously, when I should have prayed, trusted, and waited. It is not sinful to search and purchase things we need for our family, His word instructs us to do so. But He wants us to ask him to provide.  I had gone about my business, thinking I was being faithful, but taking away God’s opportunity to show himself to me as our Provider.  

So keep on praying ladies, and let’s not turn into Martha, anxiously getting our tasks done while our Provider sits there, waiting.  He sits there, calling.  He has all we need.  Yes, there is work to do.  But let’s go to him every morning and set our to do list and our needs at his feet, and then let’s wait in expectation.  Let’s allow his Spirit to lead this thing.

Luke 10:38-42

Mary and Martha

38 As Jesus and the disciples continued on their way to Jerusalem, they came to a certain village where a woman named Martha welcomed him into her home. 39 Her sister, Mary, sat at the Lord’s feet, listening to what he taught. 40 But Martha was distracted by the big dinner she was preparing. She came to Jesus and said, “Lord, doesn’t it seem unfair to you that my sister just sits here while I do all the work? Tell her to come and help me.”

41 But the Lord said to her, “My dear Martha, you are worried and upset over all these details! 42 There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Mary has discovered it, and it will not be taken away from her.”

He is faithful.

He will give us the right heart to work and serve our families.

He will provide what we need to serve them well.

Don’t go off on your own working anxiously.  Remember the theme verse of this whole journey,

“Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.” Matthew 11:29-30 MSG

He is alive.  He is a very present help.  Praying for you sweet spring cleaning sisters!

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